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Do your eyes start to well up at the sight of anything even remotely sentimental? Do your feelings get hurt and then get told you are too sensitive? Do you wear your heart on your sleeve to the point that no matter how badly you try to hide your feelings, your face and voice always expose you? You must be, what they call an emotionally sensitive person. Take it from the girl that cries every time she watches Monsters Inc. and has been told over and over again that she is too emotional— navigating through life can be challenging when you are a part of the emotionally delicate. But today, I am not going to talk about the challenges. I am going to talk about the advantages that are unique to emotionally sensitive people. Because while other people may believe we overreact and need to thicken our skin, there are an infinite number of reasons why we are perfect just the way we are. But for now, I will list the top seven.
1. We are extremely considerate of other people’s feelings
We may get emotionally wounded more often the average person, but we also hurt other people much less than the average person. Because we are more attuned to our emotions and feelings, we are able to empathize and identify with other people’s potential sensitivities. We understand and conceptualize how something can hurt someone and use that knowledge to avoid stomping all over another person’s heart.
2. We understand ourselves better
Because we are sensitive when it comes to emotions, we have a near-refined expertise in the area. Emotionally sensitive people have a far greater emotional intelligence. Unlike some people, we cannot ignore or suppress our emotions. While this appears seemingly more painful, it also means that we know ourselves that much better. We aren’t scrambling to figure it out what happened years later when suppressed emotions come to the surface. We feel our emotions when they occur and face them head on.
3. No one wants to date a Poker face
Sometimes we want to kick ourselves for revealing our emotions. The heart on the sleeve phenomenon is an emotionally sensitive person’s greatest foe. Sometimes we just want our privacy to feel how we feel without having it be exposed to the world. But, the reality is that no one likes having to guess what someone’s thinking. No one likes to be with someone who is like a wall that they can’t pass, someone that can’t ever be vulnerable or open up. Having that Poker face may appear to be bliss, but the reality is that people aren’t looking for a Poker face in a relationship. Because just like the game, it’s always going to be a gamble. Don’t we want to bet on something that we don’t ever have to doubt or question?
4. We can read people very well
Going back to the emotional intelligence, our feeling-smarts give us an intuition that others don’t have. We can sense negativity and insincerity even when they are incognito. Some people are able to disguise their harmful energy, but we are emotional detectives. We can identify and detect those that aren’t truly being genuine.
5. We are more passionate
Yes, without a doubt, our emotions are more heightened. When we are sad, we are devastated. When we are angry, we are infuriated. But on the contrary, when we are happy we are pure ecstasy. When we love, we love harder than anyone else. And one day, we will find the person that will truly appreciate all of it.
6. We are deeply complex human beings
People with shallow emotional affect tend to be one-dimensional and basically black or white; with them you either receive one side or the other. But, the highly sensitive are far more complex; we are like a deep ocean with many layers. And while swimming in the ocean can be challenging and scary with its vast depth and tidal waves, it’s also a lot more fun! Depth and complexity are unique and compelling traits that sensitive people have.
7. We are kind people
Last but not least, we are kind genuine people. The very last thing that a highly sensitive person wants to do is upset others or have any conflict. Thus, we do our very best to extend kindness and consideration to everyone. Our sheer avoidance of hostility helps maintain peace and harmony in all situations.
So, the next time someone tells you that you’re being sensitive, dramatic, or over-reacting, just reflect back on this list and remember that there are many reasons why your sensitivity is a blessing. We shouldn’t wish to be any other way than how we are.
Highly sensitive beings suffer more, but they also love harder, dream wider, and experience deeper horizons and bliss. When you’re sensitive, you’re alive in every sense of the word in this wildly beautiful world. Sensitivity is your strength. Keep soaking in the light, and spreading it to others.
– Victoria Erickson